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Sexual identity

No one is born knowing who they are, let alone whether they’re gay, straight or whatever. Some people are predominately attracted to people of the same sex. They’re gay or lesbian. Others are attracted to both men and women to varying degrees. They’re bisexual. You can change, or be unsure, so take your time.

Most people during their life feel drawn to someone of their own sex. But finding someone attractive doesn’t mean you’re gay. For many, these feelings are just part of normal sexual development and some go on to have relationships with people of the opposite sex. What if these feelings don’t go away but get stronger or your still really confused?

If you’re asking questions about your sexuality, then you’re probably not ready to give yourself a label. Working it out takes time.

Nobody knows what makes someone gay, lesbian, bisexual or straight. You don’t choose your sexuality. It’s not due to your upbringing or the people you hang around with. Sometimes it just ‘is’ – like your hair colour or shoe size.

Being gay, lesbian or bisexual is normal. You haven’t done anything wrong. Unfortunately, not everyone sees it that way. Some people feel threatened by things they don’t understand. Because of this, you may be tempted to keep quiet or pretend that you’re heterosexual. The trouble is, you can’t hide your feelings forever. What’s more, you shouldn’t have to. You have a right to be proud of who you are.

How can counselling help?
It’s good to talk to Someone who can help you explore your feelings, someone who will not think you are weird or a freak. Counsellor’s at Akousis will help you explore your own feelings and enable you feel comfortable with how you are. There is no shame in being different, after all we all look different and act different so why cant we accept our own difference?